Is that it looks different for everyone! How each of us live this conviction out, will look different because God created us all to be different. And this has created a problem for me!
**WARNING: I'm about to get really frank and REALLY personal. Some of you may get offended by this...**
You see, I have always dressed how I wanted to dress without any thought of how it made other see me or how it would affect them. So when I felt the conviction of modesty and did some research (mainly reading other Christian modest blogs), I immediately thought that I had to look like them and do what they did. I mean, after all, they were home school moms too and they all looked like they had it ALL figured out.
So I threw out all of my pants, high heels, heavy makeup, grew my hair out long donned a denim jumper, refused to watch secular TV or listen to secular music and waited for things to fix themselves.....
But to my surprise, everything got worse! And I had no clue why, I mean I was doing everything right! I looked the part, I was homeschooling, and I was saying "no" to the things I was "supposed" to being saying no to. So why was my whole family miserable? Why was I constantly snapping at and losing my patience with my husband and my children?!
In my own selfish/self righteous world, it was because I was the only one who was being "set apart" from the world and the only one who was "dying to self". If Mr.B wasn't happy, it was because HE was the sinner, not me! And the boys? Well, they just didn't know any better!!
I would get on my knees and BEG God to change THEM because they "just weren't doing the right things"!
Things weren't horrible (please don't misunderstand me!) but did I really want to look back on my life and say, "Well things weren't horrible!" NO! I want to look back and say, "Wow! My life was amazing!"
I became so frustrated because I would read the Bible or hear a sermon and feel the conviction to live a life that isn't conformed to this world...I was so confused. If this is how we were supposed to be living, why wasn't it working?!
So I gave up....I bought some new skinny jeans, chopped all my hair off, got out cable hooked back up and tuned in to the local top 40 station on the radio.
But the weight on conviction was heavy in the back of my mind. It was like the elephant in the room that no one else could see. When I would look at myself in the mirror, I would see the old me. The me that didn't know any better. But this time, I did know better.Sure I felt more comfortable living like this...because it was easy.
And yet, I was still miserable. I was still critical of my husband, except instead of being critical of his television choices I would find other things. There was always something that someone else was doing that they weren't doing "right"!
I was being "me" again- the "me" that everyone else likes, but I felt hollow...and guilty.
So I did what I should have done in the first place...I prayed! I begged God to show me what to do! I asked Him, "what was I doing wrong?""Where did I go wrong?""Why weren't we happy?"
I didn't hear a booming voice from Heaven, nor did I hear His still,small voice.
So I got on here Friday night and rambled, and wrote this. Reading it now, I realize I wasn't writing it to you-my readers. I was writing out my prayer- my frustrated, confused prayer. And then I felt it, that peace "that passes all understanding". It was like He was saying, "Becky don't worry, I got this!"
The very next day I came across this blog The Peaceful Wife (if you have the time,please read this testimony. I could have written it myself! The first half anyway!!) I devoured her videos and all of her posts.
And then it hit me-- I am the one who needs to change! I can't control anyone, but myself. I didn't even realize I had the desire to control anyone! But that's what I was doing when I would stand there in my modest attire and criticize my husband!! NOTHING modest about that!
I was FLOORED!! and completely humbled... I cried my eyes out in shame. And then I once again began to beg God for change. But this time, I was begging Him to change me...
In the beginning of this journey to become a Titus 2 woman, it was more about doing/saying the things that I thought I was "supposed" to being saying/doing. But now, I have realized it's about being me...but a better me--a more Christ-like me (isn't that our goal as Christians?). I am still a piece of work, I have not "arrived". I mess up...alot! And I'm sure I will backslide again, but that is what God's beautiful grace is for!
God doesn't want us all to look like we came from a cookie cutter. That would undermine his beautiful design. He created us all different...on purpose!
So now I am working on me (or should I say, GOD is working on me!). I'm not worried about anyone else ("let go, and let God" right?), their convictions are between them and God. Our relationship with our Savior is a personal one and not for me or anyone else to judge.
And while I don't feel like I have to wear a denim jumper to be modest, I still feel like skirts are more modest. I want my rear to be out of view, people! LOL
But do I feel like I need to have waist length hair? No, but I probably will grow it out again, for femininity's sake ;) Do I have to wear skirts to the floor? No, but I do love me a maxi! As far as jewelry, I've never been one for a lot of jewelry anyway!
So that's what's going on with me! I'm learning to be comfortable being this "new creation" and learning to let go of the "glory days". God has better plans for me, than I EVER had for myself :) So I know if I work on me, and give him everything and everyone else- He'll take care of it!
I'm in a good place!!
LOVIN' MY JESUS!!
P.S- My blog friend Jacie over at Munah's Cupcake wrote a similar post a few weeks ago. Please go check it out and tell her I sent you! She's a gem!
Oh, and I've linked up for "Modest Monday" with <center><a href=" http://www.themodestmomblog.com
Monday, October 1, 2012
Saturday, September 8, 2012
Blog Makeover!!!!!
Boys & Butterflies will be getting a makeover this week, in appearance AND content!
I started this blog with the intention to encourage other Christian mamas. But it (and I in return)has become something it was never meant to be.
I am confessing that those who called me judgemental were right! And I can prove it:
Yesterday as I was in the Dollar Tree, I saw 3 buzzed head, heavily tattooed guys walking up to people and asking them something. My immediate reaction (almost subconscious!) was, "Are they asking for money?!" So I inched closer and was SHOCKED by what I overheard...they were handing out Bible tracts and asking the recipient if there was anything they could pray for!!
I turned the corner and hung my head in shame...
I am more than embarrassed at my judgmental thoughts and I'm thankful that others couldn't hear them.
It led me to ask myself this question: When did I become like the Pharisees? Looking the part on the outside and saying all the "right" things (and posting them on facebook!) but my inside is as ugly as...sin.
So that's what I did, I confessed it as sin and begged God to forgive me! Now I'm trying to get back a place....even though I'm not sure where or what that is.
All I know is that in trying to live a holy life, I have pushed all of my friends away (and blamed it on "no one wants to hang out with someone who has a bunch of loud kids") and have lost "me".
So I'm doing A LOT of praying and soul searching and trying to figure out who I am again, and what exactly I AM supposed to be doing. Because what I have been doing...isn't working!!
So my first step is to make this public apology to those that I have judged harshly. I am truly sorry if I have done anything in a "holier than Thou" attitude or offended you by anything I have put on Facebook or if I have pushed you away. Now is the time that I truly need some friends, and I find myself lacking...
And just in case yesterday's episode wasn't enough of a wake up call, God showed me this in our nightly family Bible Time:
" God does not see the same way people see. People look at the outside of a person, but the Lord looks at the heart. 1 Samuel 16:7
Other people see you from the outside, and sometimes people will judge you by the way you look. But God doesn't care how you look on the outside. Why? Because God is wiser than that; God cares about what you are on the inside-God sees your heart.
If you're like most people, you'll worry a little bit about the way you look (or maybe you worry a lot about it). But please don't worry too much about your appearance!
How you look on the outside isn't important...but how you feel on the inside is important. So don't worry about trying to impress other people. Instead of trying to impress other kids, try to impress God by being the best person you can be."
Talk about "divine revelation"!!
God will use whatever He can to get to us, and yesterday he used 3 tattooed guys and my children's devotional....
My second step is to give B&B a makeover, this blog will now be the home of all things thrifty and crafty-anything to save you money! From homemade baby items to couponing to Thrift Store finds, oh and also my side business who shares the same name!
Please give me some feedback on this one! All comments are open :)
I started this blog with the intention to encourage other Christian mamas. But it (and I in return)has become something it was never meant to be.
I am confessing that those who called me judgemental were right! And I can prove it:
Yesterday as I was in the Dollar Tree, I saw 3 buzzed head, heavily tattooed guys walking up to people and asking them something. My immediate reaction (almost subconscious!) was, "Are they asking for money?!" So I inched closer and was SHOCKED by what I overheard...they were handing out Bible tracts and asking the recipient if there was anything they could pray for!!
I turned the corner and hung my head in shame...
I am more than embarrassed at my judgmental thoughts and I'm thankful that others couldn't hear them.
It led me to ask myself this question: When did I become like the Pharisees? Looking the part on the outside and saying all the "right" things (and posting them on facebook!) but my inside is as ugly as...sin.
So that's what I did, I confessed it as sin and begged God to forgive me! Now I'm trying to get back a place....even though I'm not sure where or what that is.
All I know is that in trying to live a holy life, I have pushed all of my friends away (and blamed it on "no one wants to hang out with someone who has a bunch of loud kids") and have lost "me".
So I'm doing A LOT of praying and soul searching and trying to figure out who I am again, and what exactly I AM supposed to be doing. Because what I have been doing...isn't working!!
So my first step is to make this public apology to those that I have judged harshly. I am truly sorry if I have done anything in a "holier than Thou" attitude or offended you by anything I have put on Facebook or if I have pushed you away. Now is the time that I truly need some friends, and I find myself lacking...
And just in case yesterday's episode wasn't enough of a wake up call, God showed me this in our nightly family Bible Time:
" God does not see the same way people see. People look at the outside of a person, but the Lord looks at the heart. 1 Samuel 16:7
Other people see you from the outside, and sometimes people will judge you by the way you look. But God doesn't care how you look on the outside. Why? Because God is wiser than that; God cares about what you are on the inside-God sees your heart.
If you're like most people, you'll worry a little bit about the way you look (or maybe you worry a lot about it). But please don't worry too much about your appearance!
How you look on the outside isn't important...but how you feel on the inside is important. So don't worry about trying to impress other people. Instead of trying to impress other kids, try to impress God by being the best person you can be."
Talk about "divine revelation"!!
God will use whatever He can to get to us, and yesterday he used 3 tattooed guys and my children's devotional....
My second step is to give B&B a makeover, this blog will now be the home of all things thrifty and crafty-anything to save you money! From homemade baby items to couponing to Thrift Store finds, oh and also my side business who shares the same name!
Please give me some feedback on this one! All comments are open :)
Tuesday, September 4, 2012
5 years ago, today.....
Five years ago today, this is what I was doing:
I was welcoming my first baby into this world! Oh! How time flies!!! It feels like it was just yesterday that this picture was taken. I can't believe this sweet baby:
has become this handsome FIVE YEAR OLD! :
This kid is...amazing! He seriously amazes me everyday. He's the best big brother anyone could ask for:
He's incredibly hilarious, and you'll never guess what he'll do or say next to have you laughing:
He's so smart, and so thoughtful for his age! He's very sensitive to others around him and is wise beyond his years.
My first born holds a special place in my heart and each birthday I can see that he is growing up to be a wonderful young man, and is no longer my little baby...
That thought....makes me excited for his future....but a little sad that his "babyhood" passed so quickly-in the blink of an eye...
FIVE...that's not a baby any more!
I was welcoming my first baby into this world! Oh! How time flies!!! It feels like it was just yesterday that this picture was taken. I can't believe this sweet baby:
has become this handsome FIVE YEAR OLD! :
This kid is...amazing! He seriously amazes me everyday. He's the best big brother anyone could ask for:
He even keeps the monsters away!
He's incredibly hilarious, and you'll never guess what he'll do or say next to have you laughing:
He's so smart, and so thoughtful for his age! He's very sensitive to others around him and is wise beyond his years.
My first born holds a special place in my heart and each birthday I can see that he is growing up to be a wonderful young man, and is no longer my little baby...
That thought....makes me excited for his future....but a little sad that his "babyhood" passed so quickly-in the blink of an eye...
FIVE...that's not a baby any more!
Happy 5th Birthday sweetheart!!!
Thursday, August 9, 2012
Giveaway Winner!!
The winner of the "Becky's Beary Cute Hats & Creations Giveaway" via put-all-entries-in-a-bowl-and-let-my-son-pick-one, is HOLCHA!!!!!
Congratulations!! Please contact me and pick your prize!
Thank you to those who entered and to those who support me and what I do! Please look for another giveaway (and review) coming in the next few weeks!!
Congratulations!! Please contact me and pick your prize!
Thank you to those who entered and to those who support me and what I do! Please look for another giveaway (and review) coming in the next few weeks!!
Friday, August 3, 2012
Kindergarten here we come!
I am so excited that we decided to stick with our decision to homeschool this year! I was equally excited when curriculum catalogs started coming in the mail....that excitement quickly became intimidation as I poured for hours over these catalogs and fellow homeschooling mom blogs trying to decide which curriculum we should use.
When we made this decision, I had no clue there were so many options! So after a lot of prayer, catalog scouring and A LOT more prayer we have decided to go with (drum roll, please!) ..................................
Rod and Staff ABC Series (plus GHI). This is technically their preschool workbooks, since the company starts at first grade. However, the material covered (plus some phonics) is what one would learn in Kindergarten.
I went to Rod & Staff's website (which I love b/c you can look through workbooks so you know what you'll be getting!) and fell in love with these workbooks. Bubba isn't a fan of workbooks. Correction: he isn't a fan of doing worksheet after worksheet after worksheet. But that's the best part of these workbooks, at this level the child only completes 2-3 pages per day! It also offers a very gently approach to learning and eases the child into new concepts so that they don't become overwhelmed.
So we ordered then, and waited...the workbooks arrived within a week! Fantastic shipping time considering this is the high of "curriculum ordering season"!
I opened the box and this is what was inside:
This series was originally called the ABC series, but they have since added GH and I. It seems like an easy curriculum to go through (for the parent). No real planning, except to figure out how many pages to do each day. The suggested pace is to start with "Adventures with Books" and then follow with each of the subsequent workbooks in order. However "Bible pictures to color" and "Bible stories to read" are to be used along side whichever workbook you are currently working on. The website suggests 3 workbook pages each day, but every 3rd day replace the 3rd worksheet with one out of BSTR and BSTC (the coloring page corresponds with the Bible story read!).
We will also be using "Teach Your Child to Read in 100 Easy Lessons" for phonics. And we will throw in some lap books for fun!
I am uber excited to begin. I love new adventures!!!
Please, if you have a blog, feel free to leave a link to your blog so I can visit yours!
When we made this decision, I had no clue there were so many options! So after a lot of prayer, catalog scouring and A LOT more prayer we have decided to go with (drum roll, please!) ..................................
Rod and Staff ABC Series (plus GHI). This is technically their preschool workbooks, since the company starts at first grade. However, the material covered (plus some phonics) is what one would learn in Kindergarten.
I went to Rod & Staff's website (which I love b/c you can look through workbooks so you know what you'll be getting!) and fell in love with these workbooks. Bubba isn't a fan of workbooks. Correction: he isn't a fan of doing worksheet after worksheet after worksheet. But that's the best part of these workbooks, at this level the child only completes 2-3 pages per day! It also offers a very gently approach to learning and eases the child into new concepts so that they don't become overwhelmed.
So we ordered then, and waited...the workbooks arrived within a week! Fantastic shipping time considering this is the high of "curriculum ordering season"!
I opened the box and this is what was inside:
This series was originally called the ABC series, but they have since added GH and I. It seems like an easy curriculum to go through (for the parent). No real planning, except to figure out how many pages to do each day. The suggested pace is to start with "Adventures with Books" and then follow with each of the subsequent workbooks in order. However "Bible pictures to color" and "Bible stories to read" are to be used along side whichever workbook you are currently working on. The website suggests 3 workbook pages each day, but every 3rd day replace the 3rd worksheet with one out of BSTR and BSTC (the coloring page corresponds with the Bible story read!).
We will also be using "Teach Your Child to Read in 100 Easy Lessons" for phonics. And we will throw in some lap books for fun!
I am uber excited to begin. I love new adventures!!!
Please, if you have a blog, feel free to leave a link to your blog so I can visit yours!
Monday, July 30, 2012
Becky's Beary Cute Hats & Creations Giveaway!!!
Since we have reached the 15 fan milestone, I would like to thank my loyal readers (new and old!) by giving away one custom item (winner's choice) from "Becky's Beary Cute Hats & Accessories"!!!!!
What is that?! You may ask. Well, if you didn't know, I LOVE to crochet! So I started a little side business of custom crocheted hats and accessories.
So the winner of this giveaway will get to pick out any item from my store for free!! This giveaway is open to residents of the U.S. only (excluding Alaska and Hawaii) and will end on Sunday, August 5th.
How to enter:
You will have 4 chances to enter!
1.) Follow my blog via Google Friend Connect (it's free to sign up!)
2.) "Like" BBCH&A on Face book and comment here (with your email provided for contact should you win)
3.) Leave a comment on this blog post telling me which item you would choose and why (with your email provided for contact should you win)
4.)Share this post on FB and comment here that you did (with your email provided for contact should you win)
Thank you for all your support!! Good luck!!
What is that?! You may ask. Well, if you didn't know, I LOVE to crochet! So I started a little side business of custom crocheted hats and accessories.
So the winner of this giveaway will get to pick out any item from my store for free!! This giveaway is open to residents of the U.S. only (excluding Alaska and Hawaii) and will end on Sunday, August 5th.
How to enter:
You will have 4 chances to enter!
1.) Follow my blog via Google Friend Connect (it's free to sign up!)
2.) "Like" BBCH&A on Face book and comment here (with your email provided for contact should you win)
3.) Leave a comment on this blog post telling me which item you would choose and why (with your email provided for contact should you win)
4.)Share this post on FB and comment here that you did (with your email provided for contact should you win)
Thank you for all your support!! Good luck!!
Saturday, June 9, 2012
Mama Guilt
OK ladies, I want to talk about something serious today.
Mama guilt.
If you know what I'm talking about then you've been a mom for longer than 2 days. If you don't, then you're probably not a mom LOL!
For those that don't know what Mama guilt is, I'll explain. Mama guilt (as defined by yours truly ;) ) is the feeling that a mama gets that makes her feel like the worst mother in the world! What causes this feeling? It can be anything from not breastfeeding (yes guys, moms that have a desire to breastfeed feel extreme guilt if they are unable to) to wanting/needing to go on vacation without the kids (and for me this would include going to the store by myself! LOL)
It, sadly, can also come from other moms! You know what I'm talking about ladies. When you make a decision (whether it be choosing NOT to breastfeed, working outside the home or whichever form of education you choose for your children) that another mom doesn't agree with and they give you that look. The look that says, "Well aren't you selfish!"
It can also come from a mom who doesn't intend to cast judgement upon another mom, but that is passionate about her choices. I have been guilty of this myself. And I feel horrible that I have caused a fellow mom to doubt her choices.
There are several blogs that I follow and look to for encouragement, and these women are very passionate about what they are writing. As a fellow writer, I understand that :)
But I read something today on a blog (and I will paraphrase) that said that if a mom chooses to have a career and work outside the home she is selling her children's souls. Because she is choosing money and satisfaction over raising her children herself. It also went on to say that when, said mom, faces God on judgment day; she would tell Him her accomplishments and He would admonish her that it came at the cost of her children's souls.
Talk about Mama guilt!!
Yes, I am planning to homeschool my children, but in the back of my mind I hope to go back to school one day.
I understand that this blogger was trying to encourage women to take their roles as "keepers of the home" (Titus 2:3-5) seriously, but she completely alienated those who also feel a calling to work.
I 'm not here today to decide whether she is right or wrong, and I won't try to persuade you otherwise. I only want to say that as moms we have got to stop making each other feel bad about our parenting choices!
You do what you feel (and have prayed about) is right for your family, and I'll do what I feel lead for mine! We were all created different with different talents and desires and our parenting choices will reflect that.
I also want to say that (most) choices are not permanent. So my choice to homeschool next year, is exactly that. To homeschool next year! Will I homeschool the next year? Who knows?! We may get into it and decide that we love it and couldn't imagine doing it any other way...or...I may get into it and say "What was I thinking?!" And would then PRAY about it and do something different the next year.
I guess what I'm getting at is, pray about the choices you make for your family. And then be proud of them! And of yourself!! You are a great mom, so get rid of the guilt and tell the devil what he can do with it!
Love,
Mrs. B
Mama guilt.
If you know what I'm talking about then you've been a mom for longer than 2 days. If you don't, then you're probably not a mom LOL!
For those that don't know what Mama guilt is, I'll explain. Mama guilt (as defined by yours truly ;) ) is the feeling that a mama gets that makes her feel like the worst mother in the world! What causes this feeling? It can be anything from not breastfeeding (yes guys, moms that have a desire to breastfeed feel extreme guilt if they are unable to) to wanting/needing to go on vacation without the kids (and for me this would include going to the store by myself! LOL)
It, sadly, can also come from other moms! You know what I'm talking about ladies. When you make a decision (whether it be choosing NOT to breastfeed, working outside the home or whichever form of education you choose for your children) that another mom doesn't agree with and they give you that look. The look that says, "Well aren't you selfish!"
It can also come from a mom who doesn't intend to cast judgement upon another mom, but that is passionate about her choices. I have been guilty of this myself. And I feel horrible that I have caused a fellow mom to doubt her choices.
There are several blogs that I follow and look to for encouragement, and these women are very passionate about what they are writing. As a fellow writer, I understand that :)
But I read something today on a blog (and I will paraphrase) that said that if a mom chooses to have a career and work outside the home she is selling her children's souls. Because she is choosing money and satisfaction over raising her children herself. It also went on to say that when, said mom, faces God on judgment day; she would tell Him her accomplishments and He would admonish her that it came at the cost of her children's souls.
Talk about Mama guilt!!
Yes, I am planning to homeschool my children, but in the back of my mind I hope to go back to school one day.
I understand that this blogger was trying to encourage women to take their roles as "keepers of the home" (Titus 2:3-5) seriously, but she completely alienated those who also feel a calling to work.
I 'm not here today to decide whether she is right or wrong, and I won't try to persuade you otherwise. I only want to say that as moms we have got to stop making each other feel bad about our parenting choices!
You do what you feel (and have prayed about) is right for your family, and I'll do what I feel lead for mine! We were all created different with different talents and desires and our parenting choices will reflect that.
I also want to say that (most) choices are not permanent. So my choice to homeschool next year, is exactly that. To homeschool next year! Will I homeschool the next year? Who knows?! We may get into it and decide that we love it and couldn't imagine doing it any other way...or...I may get into it and say "What was I thinking?!" And would then PRAY about it and do something different the next year.
I guess what I'm getting at is, pray about the choices you make for your family. And then be proud of them! And of yourself!! You are a great mom, so get rid of the guilt and tell the devil what he can do with it!
Love,
Mrs. B
Monday, June 4, 2012
Not Backing Down!
The enemy has been on my case lately. He's practically made camp on my back porch. Whispering doubts in my ear to the point that the wall that I have been building was down. And then he attacked, loud and clear! And sadly, he used someone else's words to do it. Whether this person knew it or not, Satan was using him/her to break my spirit...and it worked.
By yesterday, the enemy's taunts were ringing in my ears and by this morning my reserve was gone. I was ready to be normal.
So I woke up this morning and begged God to give me....something. I didn't even know what to pray for. I was craving some sort of encouragement. I needed to know that what I have been doing is the right thing. Or would it matter if I slipped back in to being "normal"? I needed to hear from Him. But I got nothing...He was silent.
Discouraged, I got up, put on a pair of jean,s and let the boys watch whatever they wanted. This, to some, may not be a huge deal and to most probably sounds very trivial. But in our home this was pretty big.
Then I checked my facebook, and I found these words of encouragement from my wonderful husband ,
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By yesterday, the enemy's taunts were ringing in my ears and by this morning my reserve was gone. I was ready to be normal.
So I woke up this morning and begged God to give me....something. I didn't even know what to pray for. I was craving some sort of encouragement. I needed to know that what I have been doing is the right thing. Or would it matter if I slipped back in to being "normal"? I needed to hear from Him. But I got nothing...He was silent.
Discouraged, I got up, put on a pair of jean,s and let the boys watch whatever they wanted. This, to some, may not be a huge deal and to most probably sounds very trivial. But in our home this was pretty big.
Then I checked my facebook, and I found these words of encouragement from my wonderful husband ,
"
Sunday, June 3, 2012
Comment Section Changes
So after some harassing comments from someone "anonymous". I have changed it to where you must be a registered user. If you have any questions on how to do this, please contact me through facebook. I am sorry that this has changed, but I will not allow me or my family to be harassed by someone that isn't brave enough to use their own name.
love,
Mrs. B
love,
Mrs. B
Tuesday, May 29, 2012
What I learned from having pink eye...
Exactly two weeks ago, today, I woke up with pink eye! I have NEVER had this in my life, so I was mortified!! It made me feel germy, ewww!!
So because of the dreaded PE, I had to throw away my current pair of contacts (what a pain b/c I only have one pair left!) and ALL of my eye make up. I was distraught! Anyone that knows me well, knows that I don't go ANYWHERE without my concealer (hello raccoon eyes!) , eyeliner, eye shadow and mascara - go ahead call me high maintenance! To this Mr. B replied, "So? What's that gonna cost? Like ?10 bucks?"
Oh Mr. B, who lives in boy land....what can I do with him?? I love him, but he had no idea! Mascara alone would cost $10!!
So since I am ever frugal and budget friendly (I refuse to call myself cheap), two weeks later, I still haven't bought any makeup :/
But I have learned a few things in the past two weeks that I would have never learned without getting the funk:
1.)Mr. B prefers me without makeup (big plus!!!)
2.)It's pretty nice to be able to spend a sweaty day outside and not worry that my makeup has slid down my face and that I now look like an extra from "Night of the Living Dead".
3.)My niece (who is a lover of makeup herself :)) said I looked "fresh faced"! I took it as a compliment :)
4.) I feel like I look younger??
5.)I don't really have raccoon eyes-they just look that way in comparison to the face I'm used to seeing in the mirror.
6.)That face that I was used to seeing...wasn't mine....
7.)God made me, so those freckles that I "have" to hide are there on purpose.
8.)Makeup can act as a mask. When I've been up all night with NKOTB, it's too easy to cover up the dark circles with concealer and when someone asks me how I'm doing to say, "fine!" When actually I'm exhausted beyond relief and could use a break.
9.) It's OK to not look perfect all the time. Flaws can be pretty too!
10.) I actually like myself without make up :)
11.) I wish I would have gotten pink eye years ago!!
Now don't get me wrong, I will probably go out and replace my makeup (maybe ha!). But at least I don't feel like I "have" to wear it, or I can't leave the house! It's very liberating to like myself just the way God made me.....freckles, dark circles, brown mousy hair and all :))
So because of the dreaded PE, I had to throw away my current pair of contacts (what a pain b/c I only have one pair left!) and ALL of my eye make up. I was distraught! Anyone that knows me well, knows that I don't go ANYWHERE without my concealer (hello raccoon eyes!) , eyeliner, eye shadow and mascara - go ahead call me high maintenance! To this Mr. B replied, "So? What's that gonna cost? Like ?10 bucks?"
Oh Mr. B, who lives in boy land....what can I do with him?? I love him, but he had no idea! Mascara alone would cost $10!!
So since I am ever frugal and budget friendly (I refuse to call myself cheap), two weeks later, I still haven't bought any makeup :/
But I have learned a few things in the past two weeks that I would have never learned without getting the funk:
2.)It's pretty nice to be able to spend a sweaty day outside and not worry that my makeup has slid down my face and that I now look like an extra from "Night of the Living Dead".
3.)My niece (who is a lover of makeup herself :)) said I looked "fresh faced"! I took it as a compliment :)
4.) I feel like I look younger??
5.)I don't really have raccoon eyes-they just look that way in comparison to the face I'm used to seeing in the mirror.
6.)That face that I was used to seeing...wasn't mine....
7.)God made me, so those freckles that I "have" to hide are there on purpose.
8.)Makeup can act as a mask. When I've been up all night with NKOTB, it's too easy to cover up the dark circles with concealer and when someone asks me how I'm doing to say, "fine!" When actually I'm exhausted beyond relief and could use a break.
9.) It's OK to not look perfect all the time. Flaws can be pretty too!
10.) I actually like myself without make up :)
11.) I wish I would have gotten pink eye years ago!!
Wednesday, May 23, 2012
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Tuesday, May 22, 2012
To homeschool or not to homeschool that is the question...
As Super Kid (aka Travis)'s last week of school has come upon us, I have been scouring the Internet trying to decide what homeschool curriculum we will use for next year.
All of this year (Travis' first in K3) I have been an emotional wreck and have felt like I have missed out on so much! Which led me to the realm of homeschooling.
There are several reasons that I want to homeschool. The obvious being that, I get to see him all day. I get to see his face light up when he finally gets something we have been covering. I get to teach him to read-how cool is that?! The second is that, I was bullied/ picked on/messed with/ called names all the way through school. I still haven't figured out why, I never really thought I was that weird! But looking back I think it was because I was an easy target...and I know that now because I can see it in Travis. He is his mother's son. My boy is so sweet and tender hearted...and those mean kids will rip him to shreds! I don't want him to go through that (and I don't care what ANYONE says, it DOES NOT make you stronger!). If I can protect him from something, I will. The third, is that I will have control over what he is learning. I won't have to explain why the teacher says that dinosaurs lived millions of years ago, but according to Bible records it was really only about 6,000 years ago. I won't have to worry about other kids/teachers telling him stuff that I'm not ready for him to know (some states are suggesting -and teaching- sex ed in the third grade!)
All of this sounds really good, right? Like I'm thoroughly convinced that this is the right choice to make for our family?
If you think this, then you are WRONG...
Going through all of the curriculum and comparing the pros's and con's of each AND trying to decide which grade he should go into next year....k4 or k5?? I'm stumped for that one!
When I try to decide, I get an uneasy feeling...maybe it's just doubt.
It's been easy all year to dread dropping him off everyday-well 3 days a week anyway. And looking forward to him being home from now on. But I am terrified that I won't teach him the right things, that he won't learn to read....and it will be my fault!
Even though the easy thing would be to put him in public school and forgo all of this anxiety, I couldn't imagine not seeing him for 8+ hours a day....
I guess that's my answer, huh? We do what we have to do for our children...not what is easiest.
It's amazing how much insight I get just from writing all of this out.
So my question this time is for homeschool mamas! How did you choose your children's curriculum? And what in the world am I supposed to do k4 or k5? He will be 5 TWO days after public school's deadline for K, and he just finished k3....sigh...
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There are several reasons that I want to homeschool. The obvious being that, I get to see him all day. I get to see his face light up when he finally gets something we have been covering. I get to teach him to read-how cool is that?! The second is that, I was bullied/ picked on/messed with/ called names all the way through school. I still haven't figured out why, I never really thought I was that weird! But looking back I think it was because I was an easy target...and I know that now because I can see it in Travis. He is his mother's son. My boy is so sweet and tender hearted...and those mean kids will rip him to shreds! I don't want him to go through that (and I don't care what ANYONE says, it DOES NOT make you stronger!). If I can protect him from something, I will. The third, is that I will have control over what he is learning. I won't have to explain why the teacher says that dinosaurs lived millions of years ago, but according to Bible records it was really only about 6,000 years ago. I won't have to worry about other kids/teachers telling him stuff that I'm not ready for him to know (some states are suggesting -and teaching- sex ed in the third grade!)
All of this sounds really good, right? Like I'm thoroughly convinced that this is the right choice to make for our family?
If you think this, then you are WRONG...
Going through all of the curriculum and comparing the pros's and con's of each AND trying to decide which grade he should go into next year....k4 or k5?? I'm stumped for that one!
When I try to decide, I get an uneasy feeling...maybe it's just doubt.
It's been easy all year to dread dropping him off everyday-well 3 days a week anyway. And looking forward to him being home from now on. But I am terrified that I won't teach him the right things, that he won't learn to read....and it will be my fault!
Even though the easy thing would be to put him in public school and forgo all of this anxiety, I couldn't imagine not seeing him for 8+ hours a day....
I guess that's my answer, huh? We do what we have to do for our children...not what is easiest.
It's amazing how much insight I get just from writing all of this out.
So my question this time is for homeschool mamas! How did you choose your children's curriculum? And what in the world am I supposed to do k4 or k5? He will be 5 TWO days after public school's deadline for K, and he just finished k3....sigh...
Monday, May 21, 2012
The Heart of the Matter
Concerning previous posts, I have been accused of being judgemental, legalistic, harsh etc. This was never my intention in writing this blog. My intention was and still is to encourage Christian women in their walk with God. When I write about my personal convictions, I try to stress the point that they are exactly that...personal. I put them on this blog for those who maybe have seen some changes in me-changes that God is making from the inside out, or for someone who is feeling the stir of conviction herself but needs some encouragement.
Because let's face it- it's hard to be different! And it feels really good to find someone who agrees with you.
My convictions do come from God (because believe me, I wouldn't be putting myself through this for anyone else!), and I don't need justification from anyone. By asking for someone's opinion, I am simply reaching out. Why am I reaching out? Because making choices that go against mainstream (even mainstream Christianity) can be isolating.
Think about it...say God lays standards for entertainment on your heart (mine happen to be Philippians 4:8), and there is this movie that EVERYONE is going to see. BUT it goes against your standards...how do you feel? Alone?.....So do I...
I can guess that someone will accuse me of pitying myself for writing this or of calling myself a martyr. But that is not why I am writing this. I am writing this to apologize...to apologize to those that I have offended by my stance on certain subject. To those that I have pushed aside because they don't share my views. And to those that I have silently (or not so silently) admonished for having a different opinion.
I will continue to post blogs, but hopefully they will come across as more encouraging and less critical. But I do ask that you as a reader remember that I am a person, with feelings.
So here's to hoping that I have mended some bridges, and opened some hearts.
Please leave me some feedback, so that I know that SOMEONE read this. No admonishments please :)
Because let's face it- it's hard to be different! And it feels really good to find someone who agrees with you.
My convictions do come from God (because believe me, I wouldn't be putting myself through this for anyone else!), and I don't need justification from anyone. By asking for someone's opinion, I am simply reaching out. Why am I reaching out? Because making choices that go against mainstream (even mainstream Christianity) can be isolating.
Think about it...say God lays standards for entertainment on your heart (mine happen to be Philippians 4:8), and there is this movie that EVERYONE is going to see. BUT it goes against your standards...how do you feel? Alone?.....So do I...
I can guess that someone will accuse me of pitying myself for writing this or of calling myself a martyr. But that is not why I am writing this. I am writing this to apologize...to apologize to those that I have offended by my stance on certain subject. To those that I have pushed aside because they don't share my views. And to those that I have silently (or not so silently) admonished for having a different opinion.
I will continue to post blogs, but hopefully they will come across as more encouraging and less critical. But I do ask that you as a reader remember that I am a person, with feelings.
So here's to hoping that I have mended some bridges, and opened some hearts.
Please leave me some feedback, so that I know that SOMEONE read this. No admonishments please :)
Thursday, May 10, 2012
...& Butterflies
This is the follow up post to "Boys...". It was supposed to be the next blog after that, but you know how that goes ;)
Anyway, I'm sure there are some that are curious as to why I named this blog "Boys & Butterflies". The "Boys" part is pretty obvious considering I live with 4 of them! But the " & Butterflies" part is something that only one or two people know about (and I'm not even sure they are aware that they know!).
In school, everyone always had their "thing" that they were crazy about. Whether it was dolphins, puppies, or zebra print stuff. So I decided my thing was going to be butterflies (little did I know the significance it would hold in my marriage). I picked them...just because they were pretty. Nothing beyond that. Every time I saw something that had a butterfly on it, I instantly loved it. But it was superficial, nothing significant.
Until my wedding day that is.... (I'm not even sure HE knows, what I am about to divulge!)
To be honest, I dated ALOT before I married Tommy. And I knew that marriage was forever, for better or for worse. I also knew that I wanted to marry Tommy and that he was the love of my life.But on my wedding day, as Tommy was at the alter waiting for the procesional to begin, and our parents were being seated. I panicked! I looked at my oldest sister and said, "But what about the butterflies?!"
She looked at me, puzzled. So I said, "I won't have anymore first dates, or first kisses!"
And in her wisdom, she said,"Yes you will!, " You will have first kisses as a married couple, first dates and kisses after you have babies! And you WILL still get the butterflies!" And my nerves were eased. With her words ringing in my ears, I confidently walked down the aisle...
And she was right! After 5 years of marriage, 3 crazy/beautiful boys, 2 heartbreaking miscarriages and more than I thought we could cram into 5 years, I still get the butterflies when He walks into a room and smiles at me :)
Tommy- I love you, and thank you for the Butterflies <3
Anyway, I'm sure there are some that are curious as to why I named this blog "Boys & Butterflies". The "Boys" part is pretty obvious considering I live with 4 of them! But the " & Butterflies" part is something that only one or two people know about (and I'm not even sure they are aware that they know!).
In school, everyone always had their "thing" that they were crazy about. Whether it was dolphins, puppies, or zebra print stuff. So I decided my thing was going to be butterflies (little did I know the significance it would hold in my marriage). I picked them...just because they were pretty. Nothing beyond that. Every time I saw something that had a butterfly on it, I instantly loved it. But it was superficial, nothing significant.
Until my wedding day that is.... (I'm not even sure HE knows, what I am about to divulge!)
To be honest, I dated ALOT before I married Tommy. And I knew that marriage was forever, for better or for worse. I also knew that I wanted to marry Tommy and that he was the love of my life.But on my wedding day, as Tommy was at the alter waiting for the procesional to begin, and our parents were being seated. I panicked! I looked at my oldest sister and said, "But what about the butterflies?!"
She looked at me, puzzled. So I said, "I won't have anymore first dates, or first kisses!"
And in her wisdom, she said,"Yes you will!, " You will have first kisses as a married couple, first dates and kisses after you have babies! And you WILL still get the butterflies!" And my nerves were eased. With her words ringing in my ears, I confidently walked down the aisle...
And she was right! After 5 years of marriage, 3 crazy/beautiful boys, 2 heartbreaking miscarriages and more than I thought we could cram into 5 years, I still get the butterflies when He walks into a room and smiles at me :)
Tommy- I love you, and thank you for the Butterflies <3
Thursday, April 5, 2012
The Fulfilled and Fulfilling Wife and Mother Series
Part 1
Understanding the problem from God's point of view-
Psalm 128:3 says, "Thy wife shall be as a fruitful vine by the sides of thine house: thy children like olive plants round about thy table."
There are several instances in the Bible that a picture of a vine is used to describe something or someone. In this case it is describing the woman of the house. Jesus also described Himself as the vine because the vine symbolized life, refreshment and ministry.
John 15:1 I am the true vine, and my Father is the husbandman.
Likewise wives give life (through childbirth), refreshment (through our attitudes and homemaking), and minister in our homes.
In a godly family, a wife must be more concerned about being (her presence) than doing, more concerned about what she is than how she performs. Christian conduct is rooted in christian character. Without Christ within, we can't do a thing!
So to be a "vine" in our own homes, ladies, we must have the Vine in our hears! Without that relationship we can do nothing out of our own strengths!!
I am the vine, ye are the branches: He that abideth in me, and I in him, the same bringeth forth much fruit: for without me ye can do nothing. John 15:5
How are you going to give what you don't have? You can't! I know I personally don't wake up with all the patience, kindness, gentleness, discipline etc that I will need for the day. And God doesn't expect me to. That's why He gave us His Word and the Holy Spirit. So that everyday when my resources are depleted, I can drop to my knees and say "Lord, I need YOUR patience YOUR kindness YOUR gentleness to deal with these crazy boys!" Without Him, I am one crabby mama ;)
Lord, help me to remember to come to you my Vine and my Strength in times when I have none. Help me to remember that I can do NOTHING without You. Thank you for sending your Holy Spirit to lift me up when I need it.
Amen
Understanding the problem from God's point of view-
Psalm 128:3 says, "Thy wife shall be as a fruitful vine by the sides of thine house: thy children like olive plants round about thy table."
There are several instances in the Bible that a picture of a vine is used to describe something or someone. In this case it is describing the woman of the house. Jesus also described Himself as the vine because the vine symbolized life, refreshment and ministry.
John 15:1 I am the true vine, and my Father is the husbandman.
Likewise wives give life (through childbirth), refreshment (through our attitudes and homemaking), and minister in our homes.
In a godly family, a wife must be more concerned about being (her presence) than doing, more concerned about what she is than how she performs. Christian conduct is rooted in christian character. Without Christ within, we can't do a thing!
So to be a "vine" in our own homes, ladies, we must have the Vine in our hears! Without that relationship we can do nothing out of our own strengths!!
How are you going to give what you don't have? You can't! I know I personally don't wake up with all the patience, kindness, gentleness, discipline etc that I will need for the day. And God doesn't expect me to. That's why He gave us His Word and the Holy Spirit. So that everyday when my resources are depleted, I can drop to my knees and say "Lord, I need YOUR patience YOUR kindness YOUR gentleness to deal with these crazy boys!" Without Him, I am one crabby mama ;)
Lord, help me to remember to come to you my Vine and my Strength in times when I have none. Help me to remember that I can do NOTHING without You. Thank you for sending your Holy Spirit to lift me up when I need it.
Amen
Wednesday, April 4, 2012
19 kids and counting giveaway!!
The Duggar Family Blog is giving away 3 copies of 19 kids and counting. the give away ends tonight at 9pm!!!
Tuesday, April 3, 2012
New Bible Study!!!
I will be starting a new Bible Study tomorrow on Biblical Womanhood, focusing on being fulfilled as a wife and mother. My hope is that this study will open my eyes to the blessings of the position that God has called me to be, and to be content with His calling.
I also hope to become more of the woman He has called me to be.
So join me here tomorrow if you would like to study this with me.
We will begin with taking a look at the "problem" of discontent in motherhood and wifehood(?)
Scriptures we will use are : Ps. 128:3 and Jn. 15:1,5
Have a blessed evening!
I also hope to become more of the woman He has called me to be.
So join me here tomorrow if you would like to study this with me.
We will begin with taking a look at the "problem" of discontent in motherhood and wifehood(?)
Scriptures we will use are : Ps. 128:3 and Jn. 15:1,5
Have a blessed evening!
Monday, March 26, 2012
Moderation (or "I think I'm trying too hard")
So I went to the mall this morning, and app
What is it about the windows that make you want to buy everything!?! Crazy C was enamored by it all, apparently I need to get me kids out more often LOL.
Anywho, as I was strolling around, a weird sensation came over me. All of a sudden, I felt like Ms. B again. The real Ms. B!! Not the Ms. B who cares what everyone thinks of her. Not the Ms. B who's trying to be "The best that she can be". The Ms. B who dresses weird, and doesn't care. The Ms. B who makes mistakes (a lot). The Ms. B who likes fashion and doing hair.
And that's who I am, for better or worse. I can't help it. THAT is who God made me to be, not a better version of myself, just....myself.
Lately I have been trying sooo hard to figure out who I am, what I should wear, how I should act. Don't get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with trying to better yourself (especially when you're doing it to please God). But in trying to better myself, I have lost myself. And that does NOT please God! He has made us all different. And that's OK!!! That's the spice of life :)
So here is a revised version of : Who I AM
I am...
a woman
a Christian
a wife
a mother (to 3 boys,and I don't have to have 19 kids and counting if I don't want to!)
a funky dresser
a klutz
a hairstylist (at heart until I finally get my license)
a sister
a daughter
an aunt
a book devourer
a writer
and, most importantly... me!
What is it about the windows that make you want to buy everything!?! Crazy C was enamored by it all, apparently I need to get me kids out more often LOL.
Anywho, as I was strolling around, a weird sensation came over me. All of a sudden, I felt like Ms. B again. The real Ms. B!! Not the Ms. B who cares what everyone thinks of her. Not the Ms. B who's trying to be "The best that she can be". The Ms. B who dresses weird, and doesn't care. The Ms. B who makes mistakes (a lot). The Ms. B who likes fashion and doing hair.
And that's who I am, for better or worse. I can't help it. THAT is who God made me to be, not a better version of myself, just....myself.
Lately I have been trying sooo hard to figure out who I am, what I should wear, how I should act. Don't get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with trying to better yourself (especially when you're doing it to please God). But in trying to better myself, I have lost myself. And that does NOT please God! He has made us all different. And that's OK!!! That's the spice of life :)
So here is a revised version of : Who I AM
I am...
a woman
a Christian
a wife
a mother (to 3 boys,and I don't have to have 19 kids and counting if I don't want to!)
a funky dresser
a klutz
a hairstylist (at heart until I finally get my license)
a sister
a daughter
an aunt
a book devourer
a writer
and, most importantly... me!
Sunday, March 25, 2012
Sunday, February 26, 2012
Child Training Bible
So I have stumbled across the most amazing product! It's called the Child Training Bible. And basically this puts God's opinion and directions regarding your children's behavior at your fingertips (literally!)
How does it work? First you need a Bible, or you can buy one from their website (http://www.childtrainingbible.com/). Then you order your kit, which comes with tabs for anything from lying to eating your veggies. Then you wait for a trainable moment with your child (nice choice of words, huh?). Then the magic happens. Instead of getting frusterated because you can't remember where in the Scriptures it says that your child MUST obey you -- because let's face it, NONE of us have the whole Bible memorized!-- you can look up the corresponding tab and VOILA the correct scripture is revealed! You can show your child that they are to obey and here's why!
I totally want one! And guess what, they're giving away 3 of them!!!! So go enter before the deadline!!!
How does it work? First you need a Bible, or you can buy one from their website (http://www.childtrainingbible.com/). Then you order your kit, which comes with tabs for anything from lying to eating your veggies. Then you wait for a trainable moment with your child (nice choice of words, huh?). Then the magic happens. Instead of getting frusterated because you can't remember where in the Scriptures it says that your child MUST obey you -- because let's face it, NONE of us have the whole Bible memorized!-- you can look up the corresponding tab and VOILA the correct scripture is revealed! You can show your child that they are to obey and here's why!
I totally want one! And guess what, they're giving away 3 of them!!!! So go enter before the deadline!!!
Wednesday, January 18, 2012
Boys...
To be honest when I first found out that NKOTB was another boy, I was disappointed. I had dreams of finally hearing the words "It's a Girl!" and buying lots of pink things. However, God had/has other plans for our family.
When people find out that I have 3 boys, the usual comments are:
" Wow! You'll have your hands full!"
"Don't you wish you were having a girl?!"
"Are you trying for a football/baseball/basketball team?"
"So are you going to keep trying for a girl?"
And now that my third, sweet boy is here, I have to ask.... why such negativity towards boys???
I understand that boys play rough, are loud, and are pretty much always dirty. But what naysayers don't see is how sweet, considerate, and protective they are :) They might play pirates and superheroes instead of babies and Barbies, but under the tough guy exterior, is a tender heart. One day they will grow up and become men with scratchy beards on the sweet soft faces that I kiss as much as I can. But for now they are my sweet, snugly little men.
Don't get me wrong, boys are LOUD!!! And it has taken me a while to get used to living in the "Land of Boys".
It is said that God will never give you more than you can handle, so I'm trusting Him on this!
So... now that my hormones have completely taken over I will leave you with the words of this song:
"Godspeed (Sweet Dreams)"
Dragon tales and the "water is wide"
Pirate's sail and lost boys fly
Fish bite moonbeams every night
And I love you
Godspeed, little man
Sweet dreams, little man
Oh my love will fly to you each night on angels wings
Godspeed
Sweet dreams
The rocket racer's all tuckered out
Superman's in pajamas on the couch
Goodnight moon, will find the mouse
And I love you
Godspeed, little man
Sweet dreams, little man
Oh my love will fly to you each night on angels wings
Godspeed
Sweet dreams
God bless mommy and match box cars
God bless dad and thanks for the stars
God hears "Amen," wherever we are
And I love you
Godspeed, little man
Sweet dreams, little man
Oh my love will fly to you each night on angels wings
Godspeed
Godspeed
Godspeed
Sweet dreams
Pirate's sail and lost boys fly
Fish bite moonbeams every night
And I love you
Godspeed, little man
Sweet dreams, little man
Oh my love will fly to you each night on angels wings
Godspeed
Sweet dreams
The rocket racer's all tuckered out
Superman's in pajamas on the couch
Goodnight moon, will find the mouse
And I love you
Godspeed, little man
Sweet dreams, little man
Oh my love will fly to you each night on angels wings
Godspeed
Sweet dreams
God bless mommy and match box cars
God bless dad and thanks for the stars
God hears "Amen," wherever we are
And I love you
Godspeed, little man
Sweet dreams, little man
Oh my love will fly to you each night on angels wings
Godspeed
Godspeed
Godspeed
Sweet dreams
I love you my little men!!!
Wednesday, January 11, 2012
Cloth Diapering 101
"What do you do with the poop?"
This is probably the most common question I get when someone finds out that we use cloth diapers. The next question is probably "Do you have to touch the poop?" And I think to myself, "why would I touch poop?!" LOL!
Cloth diapering is something that was done exclusively by parents until the mid-20th century. So I'm not sure why so many people are appalled by this. My mother cloth diapered me (hi mom!), and I turned out fine (relatively speaking!). So I have decided to give the basics on this recent endeavour of mine (Mr. B is still grossed out by it...oy vey).
When I first entered the world of CD'ing, I was majorly confused. Mainly because all of the abbreviations that are used such as CD (cloth diaper), AIO (all in one), PF's (prefolds), NB (newborn) etc. I will explain all of these and more later. Anyhow, once I got past that I had to decide what type I wanted to use, as there are several types of dipes now adays (not just the basic diaper and rubber pants that your mom used!). And the only way to do this is by trial and error.
Here are the different types:
Prefolds- this is what your mom used. It's basically just a rectangle of layered cotton or hemp material. Note: it is not waterproof and you MUST use a cover, otherwise....eeew! Just sayin'
I decided to try pockets first. I had no clue what brand to use (and will not endorse any in this post, if you would like to know which brands I prefer and use please email me at beckedy1003@hotmail.com). So I hit up eBay and found some for $3 a piece including shipping! Pretty good deal! So I ordered them and tried them on "Crazy C". What I didn't realize is that every baby is shaped differently and that Crazy has virtually no waist and an extremely long rise from groin to bellybutton. The particular CD's that I ordered had snapping closures and they fit, but they would pull down in the front (if that makes sense). These have become my emergency dipes :) I keep them but only use them when I HAVE to. So I decided to try pockets with Velcro closures, these were a dream. And were only $5 on eBay!! They are my fave, especially for nighttime when I have to double stuff! Next I wanted to try AI2's, so I found a vendor on Facebook who had extremely cute fabric (write that down, cute fabric is VERY important!) so I ordered several from her. And since I now knew that I preferred Velcro closures that is what I ordered. I also have one snap closure from this vendor, and I love it too! It's all about the brands, just like with everything else!
So now that I had all of these diapers, it was time to use them! For my pockets and AI2's the only thing that you need to prep is the inserts, but for my prefolds (that I bought for my New Kid on the Block) you have to prep all of them. Prepping improves the absorbency of CD's. For prepping, I boil my new inserts and prefolds in a very large pot for about 20 minutes a couple of times and dry them on high heat. Voila! Ready to go! As for my covers and shells (AI2's), I wash them in one regular cycle and dry on high heat once to make sure the waterproof lining (PUL) is sealed where it was sewn together.
Once your dipes are prepped they are ready to be used! And once they are .....used (no need to get graphic here LOL!) you need somewhere to keep the used ones until it's laundry day. I have a garbage can with a swinging lid, and a mesh laundry bag from walmart that I use. Some prefer to buy a wet bag or diaper pail. But I'm cheap so I went with the most frugal option!
I have enough CD's in my stash to wash every other day (and no, the nursery does not stink! You can come to my house if you don't believe me!)
On said laundry day. I pull out the mesh laundry bag and haul it to the laundry room. Next, I use the soak cycle (cold water) on my washing machine (I have a top loader, so I have no advice for someone with a new fancy, smancy front loader!lol) to get any remaining debris off. Note: I promise I DO NOT touch the poop! When Crazy does a #2 I plop what I can into the potty and anything that remains will get taken care of in the soak cycle. Some people install a "diaper sprayer" onto their toilets, but so far I haven't had a need for that. Oh, and when NKOTB gets here (in 5 days, eek!!) he will be exclusively breastfed, and another perk to that is that BF poop is water soluble, so no dumping! Once solids are started or formula is introduced, you must dump.
After the soak cycle, I choose the longest wash cycle on my machine, which is the "white cycle". I use the hottest setting on this, to kill any bacteria. There are websites that will tell you which detergents to use yada, yada, but I have learned that I can use my favorite detergent (Dreft for babies). However, I use VERY little, like 1 1/2 tablespoons. Using too much can cause stink issues (still haven't figured that one out, but trust me!) After my hot wash, comes an extra cold rinse with 1/4 cup white vinegar to get rid of any build up caused from the detergent or any lingering smells.
When I first started, I dried all of my inserts and prefolds on high every time. But we started noticing a smell, not bad, but a smell. So I started line drying everything, like I already did to my shells and covers. And Voila! No smell! So there you go, that is my experience with the world of cloth diapering.
Just like with everything, it's not for everyone. But to me, all of the benefits FAR out weigh the negatives- the only one I've found being that you have to change dipes every 2-3 hours. It's a lot of trial and error, all around. Like, at first we had issues with compression leaks happening when Crazy would be in his car seat for a while, during nap time, and sitting at restaurants. But that was fixed by putting a pair of "rubber pants" over his CD. It's not the cutest thing in the world, but hey! no leaks!! Which makes Mr. B happy!!
Feel free to ask any questions, or if I have forgotten to include something PLEASE let me know!
*** Giveaway coming soon! Once I reach 25 followers or subscribers, I will be doing a review for Cow Patties Cloth diapers. And the owner has agreed to do a giveaway of a one size AI2. Winner picks the outer fabric! So refer your family and friends!!! Even if you/they don't CD, it could be a gift for someone!!***
This is probably the most common question I get when someone finds out that we use cloth diapers. The next question is probably "Do you have to touch the poop?" And I think to myself, "why would I touch poop?!" LOL!
Cloth diapering is something that was done exclusively by parents until the mid-20th century. So I'm not sure why so many people are appalled by this. My mother cloth diapered me (hi mom!), and I turned out fine (relatively speaking!). So I have decided to give the basics on this recent endeavour of mine (Mr. B is still grossed out by it...oy vey).
When I first entered the world of CD'ing, I was majorly confused. Mainly because all of the abbreviations that are used such as CD (cloth diaper), AIO (all in one), PF's (prefolds), NB (newborn) etc. I will explain all of these and more later. Anyhow, once I got past that I had to decide what type I wanted to use, as there are several types of dipes now adays (not just the basic diaper and rubber pants that your mom used!). And the only way to do this is by trial and error.
Here are the different types:
Prefolds- this is what your mom used. It's basically just a rectangle of layered cotton or hemp material. Note: it is not waterproof and you MUST use a cover, otherwise....eeew! Just sayin'
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| Image from www.diaperetc.com |
Fitteds- basically a prefold with elastic sewn into the legs (to hold the poop, that you won't be touching, in). Some have Velcro or snap closures, and some you will need to pin or use a snappi ( a snapping closure that you buy separate). These are also NOT waterproof and will need a cover.
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| Image from www.diaperjunction.com |
Covers- These go over prefolds and fitteds and can be anywhere from the rubber pants I mentioned above (which you can get at walmart for a few bucks) or you can get some really cute ones that have Velcro or snap closures. And let's face it, part of CD'ing is buying the cute stuff!
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| Image from www.verybaby.com |
All in One's- (AIO) These are just what it sounds like. Everything rolled into one! They are waterproof and do not need a cover. There is also no need for an insert (to soak up the wet stuff), because it's already in there! The downside to these IMO is that they take longer to dry since you can't remove said soaker.
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| Image from www.snap-ez.com |
All in Two's- (AI2) These are what I prefer! Just like an AIO, except the insert is removable! Some inserts snap in and some Velcro. These tend to be more expensive though...
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| Image from www.diaperware.com |
Pockets- These are my next favorite, mostly because they are usually cheaper than AI2's and easier to find! These are also waterproof (so no cover needed) and have a pocket to hold the insert.
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| Image from www.breastfeedingsymbol.org |
So now that I had all of these diapers, it was time to use them! For my pockets and AI2's the only thing that you need to prep is the inserts, but for my prefolds (that I bought for my New Kid on the Block) you have to prep all of them. Prepping improves the absorbency of CD's. For prepping, I boil my new inserts and prefolds in a very large pot for about 20 minutes a couple of times and dry them on high heat. Voila! Ready to go! As for my covers and shells (AI2's), I wash them in one regular cycle and dry on high heat once to make sure the waterproof lining (PUL) is sealed where it was sewn together.
Once your dipes are prepped they are ready to be used! And once they are .....used (no need to get graphic here LOL!) you need somewhere to keep the used ones until it's laundry day. I have a garbage can with a swinging lid, and a mesh laundry bag from walmart that I use. Some prefer to buy a wet bag or diaper pail. But I'm cheap so I went with the most frugal option!
I have enough CD's in my stash to wash every other day (and no, the nursery does not stink! You can come to my house if you don't believe me!)
On said laundry day. I pull out the mesh laundry bag and haul it to the laundry room. Next, I use the soak cycle (cold water) on my washing machine (I have a top loader, so I have no advice for someone with a new fancy, smancy front loader!lol) to get any remaining debris off. Note: I promise I DO NOT touch the poop! When Crazy does a #2 I plop what I can into the potty and anything that remains will get taken care of in the soak cycle. Some people install a "diaper sprayer" onto their toilets, but so far I haven't had a need for that. Oh, and when NKOTB gets here (in 5 days, eek!!) he will be exclusively breastfed, and another perk to that is that BF poop is water soluble, so no dumping! Once solids are started or formula is introduced, you must dump.
After the soak cycle, I choose the longest wash cycle on my machine, which is the "white cycle". I use the hottest setting on this, to kill any bacteria. There are websites that will tell you which detergents to use yada, yada, but I have learned that I can use my favorite detergent (Dreft for babies). However, I use VERY little, like 1 1/2 tablespoons. Using too much can cause stink issues (still haven't figured that one out, but trust me!) After my hot wash, comes an extra cold rinse with 1/4 cup white vinegar to get rid of any build up caused from the detergent or any lingering smells.
When I first started, I dried all of my inserts and prefolds on high every time. But we started noticing a smell, not bad, but a smell. So I started line drying everything, like I already did to my shells and covers. And Voila! No smell! So there you go, that is my experience with the world of cloth diapering.
Just like with everything, it's not for everyone. But to me, all of the benefits FAR out weigh the negatives- the only one I've found being that you have to change dipes every 2-3 hours. It's a lot of trial and error, all around. Like, at first we had issues with compression leaks happening when Crazy would be in his car seat for a while, during nap time, and sitting at restaurants. But that was fixed by putting a pair of "rubber pants" over his CD. It's not the cutest thing in the world, but hey! no leaks!! Which makes Mr. B happy!!
Feel free to ask any questions, or if I have forgotten to include something PLEASE let me know!
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| www.cowpattiescloth.blogspot.com |
Monday, January 9, 2012
Who I Am
I am a God servin',
Husband lovin',
Child rearin',
Homeschool minded,
Skirt wearin',
Pro-life,
Crocheting,
Boy makin',
Gospel spreadin',
Homemaking,
27 year old woman of God!
Anything else you want to know? Just ask!
Husband lovin',
Child rearin',
Homeschool minded,
Skirt wearin',
Pro-life,
Crocheting,
Boy makin',
Gospel spreadin',
Homemaking,
27 year old woman of God!
Anything else you want to know? Just ask!
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