Understanding the problem from God's point of view-
Psalm 128:3 says, "Thy wife shall be as a fruitful vine by the sides of thine house: thy children like olive plants round about thy table."
There are several instances in the Bible that a picture of a vine is used to describe something or someone. In this case it is describing the woman of the house. Jesus also described Himself as the vine because the vine symbolized life, refreshment and ministry.
John 15:1 I am the true vine, and my Father is the husbandman.
Likewise wives give life (through childbirth), refreshment (through our attitudes and homemaking), and minister in our homes.
In a godly family, a wife must be more concerned about being (her presence) than doing, more concerned about what she is than how she performs. Christian conduct is rooted in christian character. Without Christ within, we can't do a thing!
So to be a "vine" in our own homes, ladies, we must have the Vine in our hears! Without that relationship we can do nothing out of our own strengths!!
How are you going to give what you don't have? You can't! I know I personally don't wake up with all the patience, kindness, gentleness, discipline etc that I will need for the day. And God doesn't expect me to. That's why He gave us His Word and the Holy Spirit. So that everyday when my resources are depleted, I can drop to my knees and say "Lord, I need YOUR patience YOUR kindness YOUR gentleness to deal with these crazy boys!" Without Him, I am one crabby mama ;)
Lord, help me to remember to come to you my Vine and my Strength in times when I have none. Help me to remember that I can do NOTHING without You. Thank you for sending your Holy Spirit to lift me up when I need it.